I’m fortunate to have friends and family who step up when I’m down on my luck, or in need. Once you hit bottom it can be very hard to get back up, even impossible alone. Many will look at you with scorn, as if you did something “wrong” to deserve it. They see you as a drain or a burden. This is one reason it’s so hard to ask for help. We’re taught to pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps.But, what about when your bootstraps have been torn off by something like cancer?
That’s what happened to a friend of a friend, far far away. Has to be one of the saddest tales I’ve heard in a while. Not, for the person who has cancer, but those who will survive her. Too proud to ask for help, it wasn’t until stage 4 that her family finally stepped up and got her the help she needed.
It is probably too late. They will have to go on with the knowledge that they did nothing, when they could have. They waited for her to pick herself back up again.
So, if you see someone who’s down on their luck. Or, you haven’t heard from a friend in a while, go check on them. Don’t expect them to reply on messenger. Use the doorbell, and if you can’t offer any real assistance, there’s always things like housekeeping, running errands, cooking a meal. You’d be surprised how much those little things can do to keep one going. I know all to well.